Tuesday, June 21, 2011

12 Steps to a perfect wedding –

1.       Go in with the attitude that you will get whatever you want – For me budget wasn’t ever a discussion point with vendors..I knew what I wanted and I knew that with the word “wedding” tacked on to anything the price rose by 75%. You can find anything you want within your budget, you just have to be a little creative and a lot charming.
2.       Always look for things from previous family nuptials to incorporate into your day – Whether it be pictures or what you are wearing, family ties in a wedding are priceless and unique and will always get an “aww” from people. (Not to mention they are great conversation pieces for the people you have never met/haven’t seen in 10 years.)
3.       Every little thing should be a little thing – Even if you think it’s something someone may not notice, i.e. – monogramming the groomsmen’s socks, you should do it because in 20 years when you are looking back on your pictures, you will love to have a picture like this…
4.       Include pets(in some way) – They are your first children after all…
5.       Never underestimate the power of online shopping – There is nothing better than getting a deal when it comes to wedding shopping. Consider sites like – lightinthebox.com & beebuyer.com for wedding/bridesmaids dresses and sites like recycledbride.com for things that have been only used once, or etsy.com for a unique twist.
-          For the people that are doubtful about buying a wedding dress online- Yes, you don’t get the experience of trying it on in front of everyone, feeling it, or making sure it fits. But you get to not only save thousands but spare yourself all the unwanted comments you may get if you go dress shopping with a bunch of women. Also, some of those dresses are so cheap, you can buy multiple ones, try them on, and send back the ones you don’t want...be sure to pay attention to the fine print about returns though.
6.       Never underestimate the power of a good, chic, wedding planner(s) – This was something I was adamant about…I cannot and will not have an ugly, unfashionable wedding planner. Mind you, I am planning my OWN wedding, and the only reason I need anyone is so they can be there on the day of the wedding to make sure things run smoothly and so I can relax.  But, with those responsibilities comes something that you need to have naturally as a wedding planner, and that’s style. The first wedding planner I met with wore a skirt suit with strappy platform sandals that were from that 90’s/early 2000’s, at that point, I couldn’t even pay attention to what she was saying. The second planners we met with (and ultimately the ones we chose) are a fabulous mother and daughter team…and they wore closed toed shoes to the consultation, 10 points right there…
7.       A picture is worth a thousand words – After all the planning, the crying, the fake canceling of the wedding, the fights with vendors..etc..all that you have left are the pictures and the wedding bands…and, in my opinion, the pictures are worth more than the bands..hear me out…Yes, you will be wearing your wedding band every day…BUT those times you and your future children take out the wedding album, you want to make sure you don’t look like a fool and don’t regret taking/not taking some pictures. You should always have a list of pictures you want taken for your photographer and you should always have props/other things that are going to make those pictures unique and timeless.
8.       Make people glass cases of emotion – Always plan a wedding ceremony with the intention of making people cry. You want the ceremony to be the most meaningful part of the day and with meaningful comes happy tears and with happy tears come people remembering your ceremony.
9.       Surprise, Surprise, Surprise – Always have people guessing what is going to come next. When people go to the same wedding 15 times that year, they get bored…keep people on the edge of their seats…
10.    Kick people out that wear white – Not kidding about this one…make them go home and change. (Their parents should have taught them better than that)
11.   After the show it’s the after party – No wedding is great without a great after party…enough said.
12.   Always look pretty on the plane the day after – Let that be your last hurrah, do you make-up and hair and play the bride part still…(at least until you get on the plane and then you can pass out until paradise) You never know if they will upgrade your newlywed asses to first class. ;-)